Dear Birthmother,
I am the birth grandmother to Tavin. Having watched my daughter make the decision to place Tavin for adoption took a lot of tears and prayers. She and I worked to find the perfect parents for her son. We spent many weeks and months in the search. At times the search became overwhelming. My daughter had narrowed it down to four couples she was emailing. As she emailed Sharlie and Andy she found friends. They answered all the questions put to them. Which made me feel better. They were not fake in their interest in her. It was NOT "we'll be nice until we have your baby" but were genuinely interested in my daughters well being.The weekend they came to meet us face to face was an instant love for each other. Sharlie's mom (Linda) and step dad (George) don't live too far from here so we were able to meet her too. We had a great time at a family barbecue. They fit right in with all my children and grand kids. We have each expanded our family to include each others. I have spent time with Linda since placement, we're just two grandmas swapping stores bout the grand kids.
They all were there in the hospital, along with Andy and his parents, they stayed the whole 27 hours of labor, sleeping in chairs and on the floor. They were all great support. Placement was hard, to say the least, but both families gave my daughter the time and space she needed.
I can not express enough how pleased I am with Andy and Sharlie being Tavin's parents. They have always been open and honest with us. I love the blog up dates. We have watched Taivn grow up via blog. And Tavin's picture hangs on my wall with the other grand kids. I know that Andy and Sharlie are not perfect people but they are the perfect parents for my grandson, Tavin.
My heart goes out to you at this difficult time in your life. This can be the hardest yet most gratifying decision in your life. I wish you the best in this endeavor. If Andy and Sharlie are on your short list I believe you couldn't go wrong.
Sincerely,
Tavin's Birth Grandmother
